Friday, November 14, 2008

School at Home

One day, several years ago, I sat down and listed a few of the reasons we decided to homeschool our children, just to have it in black and white. I had all but forgotten about that list until the other day when a friend of mine sent me an e-mail. She was telling me a cute story about some comment one of her children had made to her and her husband. She followed the story up with a remark that I haven't been able to forget. She said, "[My husband] and I never really talked about[that] with either of the boys… so I think they've been getting some feedback at school." Now this couple is very loving and also very involved in their kids activities. The comment just struck me; shy are many parents detached from their children educations.

One of the many reasons we chose to homeschool our kids was that we wanted to be involved in their education. I just think is sad that so many parents don't know or even worse don't care what their kids are learning. Here is an excerpt from that original list.

Schools have the one-size-fits-all approach. At home we can teach each child in the way that they learn best and at the rate that is appropriate for them. If they don’t “get it” the first time we can spend more time on what they need help with and move along with ideas and concept that are easily understood.
Schools tend to have an atmosphere that is overly controlling; lining up kids, moving them around like herds of cattle, and a disciplining them inappropriately for the problematic behavior. At home children are able express their individual personalities and only receive the appropriate amount of discipline for the infraction.
Schools have an institutionalized environment. At home children are loved and nurtured.
Schools spoon feed children what they want them to know. As our children grow they will have the opportunity to experience self-directed learning. They will acquire the basic skill to learn independently.
In the school setting our children will be exposed to outside influence that we feel are not safe for our children. Examples of such concerns are bullying, cussing, fighting negative influencing of peers, and illegal drug use. Many times these factors are over-looked or unseen by school officials. At home we have the ability to mold our children and shape them with high moral
standards, and to teach them right from wrong. In other words we are able to be their parents.

Schools have set schedules. We are able to study each subject when the time is right, travel if need be, hold ‘class’ during the hot summer months and enjoy the out-of-doors when the weather is pleasant. Flexibility is one of the perks of schooling at home.
Why would I want to send my children to school when the schools are admittedly producing poor quality students? There is violence in the school. The teachers and staff are unable to protect the students. The courts have ruled that once you drop you child off at the door of the school you no longer have to direct your child’s education.
I would just like to add that this so-called socialization issue is not an issue at all. Socialization is the process by which children and adults learn from others. Really now, isn't that what homeschooling is all about? In fact I'll top that one. Most children I've met that are schooled at home interact better with a wider age range than do your so called socialized school children.

4 comments: said...

What an interesting post. It is so true that there is a HUGE disconnect between parents and children when it comes to education. That's one of the reasons (there are many) that Josh and I want to homeschool our children.


The Park Wife said...

Amen Sistah!

I will add that one of the many reasons we homeschool is because we value character above all else. Why would I trust or allow someone outside of my husband and I to be the primary influencer over our children?

The academics will (and have) come, but it is important to us to impart the wisdom and skills needed to transform our boys into honest, caring men who will be respectful of women, loyal and faithful in marriage, keepers of commitments, strong and decisive leaders, good workers, and REAL MEN who love the Lord.

The Park Wife

Christina said...

I am an advocate of homeschooling. As a former director of a preschool chain, I saw too many things. Children really need the guidance and direction we, as parents, are able to give them. Left on their own, (and public school is basically being left on their own) they will learn many things we don't want them to. Their perspective on life will be all turned around. Could you imagine how our society would be in 20 or 30 years if all parents would be the teachers. Parenting is a full time job and responsibility. I would love to see more parents step up and grab the bull by the horns, so to speak and actually parent instead of babysit and be their best friend. My job as a parent is to instill knowledge and values. I am to guide and teach. I am very fortunate to have 3 wonderful adult children who are NOW my best friends.

Anonymous said...

Christina, I would love to see more parents step up to the plate, too. But, unfortunately, that's not going to happen. That's why I homeschool, b/c then, I get to pick who my girls hang out with. (Even if it IS Suburban Farmer's kids--ugggghhh-- have you been around them??) (Sarcasm, sarcasm here!)

Love ya Tina

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” mahatma gandhi